Friday, December 25, 2020

What More

 וַיֹּ֙אמֶר֙ יִשְׂרָאֵ֔ל רַ֛ב עוֹד־יוֹסֵ֥ף בְּנִ֖י חָ֑י אֵֽלְכָ֥ה וְאֶרְאֶ֖נּוּ בְּטֶ֥רֶם אָמֽוּת.  The Emrei Menachem (Alexander) asks that the word עוד is extra, it could just say רב יוסף בני חי? 

The possuk in Tehillim (37:10) says וְע֣וֹד מְ֭עַט וְאֵ֣ין רָשָׁ֑ע וְהִתְבּוֹנַ֖נְתָּ עַל־מְקוֹמ֣וֹ וְאֵינֶֽנּוּ. Rav Boruch M'mezbutch explained that even in the rasha there is a ועוד, a inner spark where there the wickedness doesn't reach; Dovid prayed to look at that ועוד and then there is no sin.  The same idea is in the famous teaching of Rebbe Nachman (182) אזמרה לאלקי בעודי, the עוד that is not contaminated will sing to Hashem.  The Emrei Menachem says that was the intent of Yaakov.  He saw that the עוד of Yosef was not only contaminated in Egypt, rather it was רב עוד, it grew to greater kedusha.

Thursday, December 24, 2020

Positive And Negative View

The last possuk in the parsha is וַיֵּ֧שֶׁב יִשְׂרָאֵ֛ל בְּאֶ֥רֶץ מִצְרַ֖יִם בְּאֶ֣רֶץ גֹּ֑שֶׁן וַיֵּאָחֲז֣וּ בָ֔הּ וַיִּפְר֥וּ וַיִּרְבּ֖וּ מְאֹֽד.  There are two approaches to understand this possuk.  The Arugos Habosem says from the fact that it says וַיֵּאָחֲז֣וּ with a kamatz under the alef, not a cholem, that Bnei Yisroel were held and entrapped by the land.  Bnei Yisroel did not relize that they were being trapped and sinking into the tumah of Mitzraim.  This approach is supported by the  The Midrash Tadshey Ch. 17which also interprets וַיֵּאָחֲז֣וּ as Bnei Yisroel were grabbed by the land against their will.  

Rashi says ויאחזו בה means לשון אחוזה.  Bnei Yisroel took over the land as their own place.  The Kli Yakar also understands this in a negative light, "הפסוק מאשימם על ישיבה זו שבקשו אחוזה בארץ לא להם, ולא כך אמרו אל פרעה לגור בארץ באנו, מלמד שמתחלה לא ירדו להשתקע שמה אלא לגור כמדייר בי דיירא ועכשיו חזרו מדבריהם, וכל כך נשתקעו שמה עד שלא רצו לצאת ממצרים, עד שהוצרך הקב״ה להוציאם משם ביד חזקה..."  The Kli Yakar understands Rashi is saying a physiological idea.  Bnei Yisroel viewed the land as their own.  However, Rashi may be alluding to the midrash that the land was literally there's as a inheritance because Pharaoh granted it to Sarah (see Pirkay D' Rebbe Eliezer Ch. 26.)  If that's the case, how was it considered golus, they were in a land that was theirs?  Because they were in the middle of a country that is not theirs' they were in golus.  That is the intent of the Rashi beforehand, וישב ישראל בארץ מצרים – והיכן, בארץ גשן, שהיא מארץ מצרים.  They were stuck in the middle of Egypt, that was the golus.  Despite the fact that their feet were standing on ground that should have been theirs, it was still in Egypt.  In this vein, we can give a positive spin on the Rashi, in fact the complete opposite of the Kli Yakar.  The land was in reality an אחוזה but yet Klal Yisroel was able to recognize they were in golus.  They recognized the fact that they lived in Goshen = modern day Jewish area, is not a substitute for the true Jewish home but that it was golus and they did not feel at home.  (See Likutay Sichos volume 15 sicha 4.) 

Sunday, December 20, 2020

Opposite of Haughty

מכניע זדים.  Why do we say (according to those that have this text,) to subdue the wicked?  We also say in the al hanissim וזדים ביד עוסקי תורתך, why specifically the זדים and how is it the opposite of עוסקי תורתך?  The possuk in Mishlay (21:24) says זֵ֣ד יָ֖הִיר לֵ֣ץ שְׁמ֑וֹ ע֜וֹשֶֹ֗ה בְּעֶבְרַ֥ת זָדֽוֹן.  We see that a זד is one who does evil with a haughtiness.  That is why we pray that the insolent should be subdued (Sefaria translation.)  That was the battle against the Greeks.  Chazal enacted Chanukah as a holiday of הלל והודאה.  The word הודאה means submission like מודים חכמים לר"מ because to give thanks to someone, you must acknowledge that you need them (כמפורסם בשם רב הוטנר.)  The fight against the Greeks was a fight against this middah of זד.  The possuk in Mishlay teaches us that the haughtiness is called a לץ.  What is the connection between haughtiness and a לץ?  The לץ is not able to accept mussar, any adjustments to his/her life because s/he is ego-centric.  They believe that everything revolves around them and they have nothing to correct.  It is an ענף on being haughty.  Such a person can not bow themselves before the Torah.  That is why Chazal see the זד as the opposite of the עוסקי תורתך.  That is why the whole enactment of the holiday is to counteract זד through הודאה.  (Based upon a shmuz by R' Elefant.)  That is the סמיכות at the end of Shemone Esrai ונפשי כעפר לכל תהיה פתח לבי בתורתך (from Berachot 17a,) it is humility that is required to be able to acquire Torah (see Likutay Sichos volume 30 Toldot sicha 1.) 

The Kabbilistic books say that just as there is a Pharaoh of tumah in these parshiot, there is a level of  Pharaoh in kedusha.  The word פרעה can also be constructed as פריעה, to reveal (see the Zohar.)  The ability to reveal the light of soul.  The Alter Rebbe points out that פרעה has the same letters as העפר.  The way to accomplish this is by being humble.  It is through humility that one is able to love the self-focus on their own body and tap into the desire of the soul.  

Wednesday, December 16, 2020

Forget The Past

Yosef named his son Efraim because he forgot all the hardships and his father's household.  Why would Yosef want to forget his father's house?   Some people always live saying "what could have been."  They live in the past and bemoan why things didn't work out the way they expected.  Their entire life is filled with regret over how things worked out and they lose the power to deal with the challenges in front of them because they just dwell on the past.  This leads down a path of יאוש for they feel there is no way they can drag themselves out of their predicament.  That of course is a failing way to live.  Yosef was giving thanks for the fact that he could put the past behind him.  He didn't go around thinking I was the best son of Yaakov and now I'm here in Egypt and that's the end of my life.  He forgot where he came from and how he got there, not that he forget his illustrious ancestry but he  didn't use that as a reason for self-pity and giving up on making the best of the situation in front of him. (Based upon Rav Shlomo Amar.) 

Al Hanissim

My father shlita posted earlier this week that the Rambam understands קבעום ועשאום ימים טובים בהלל והודאה the הודאה is a reference to lighting the menorah.  He brings many sources in Rambam to support this idea.  The Riaz also understand the Gemorah this way.  However, Rashi understands that הודאה refers to the fact that we say al hanissim.  According to Rashi the establishment of Chanukah as a holiday is expressed in hallel and saying al hanissim.  This means that al hanissim is a way of mentioning the holiday like יעלה ויבא on Rosh Chodesh.  It is a mentioning of מעין המאורע just like יעלה ויבא (see Rashi Betzah 17a ד"ה בהודאה.)   However, the Rambam understands that it is a specific enactment to give thanks for the miracle but it is not a fulfillment of mentionning the holiday in prayer.  We can see this in the Rambam Laws of Tefillah (2:10,13)  בְּרָאשֵׁי חֳדָשִׁים וּבְחֻלּוֹ שֶׁל מוֹעֵד מִתְפַּלֵּל עַרְבִית שַׁחֲרִית וּמִנְחָה תְּשַׁע עֶשְׂרֵה בְּרָכוֹת כִּשְׁאָר הַיָּמִים וְאוֹמֵר בָּעֲבוֹדָה יַעֲלֶה וְיָבוֹא. בַּחֲנֻכָּה וּבְפוּרִים מוֹסִיפִין בְּהוֹדָאָה עַל הַנִּסִּים.  Why does he switch from אומר to מוסיף and why does he only say about יעלה ויבא that one prays תְּשַׁע עֶשְׂרֵה בְּרָכוֹת כִּשְׁאָר הַיָּמִים?  In light of how the Rambam learns we understand that the יעלה ויבא becomes part of the day's prayer, it is not a mere addition to the Shemonei Esrai, it transforms the Shemonei Esrai into a Rosh Chodesh Shemonei Esrai by mentioning מעין המאורע.  Al hanissim though does not make it a holiday prayer, it is just an addition to the prayer. That is why he only mentions the Shemonei Esrai with יעלה ויבא as being its own kind of Shemonei Esrai and about al hanissim he calls it just an addition.  (From a shiur of Rav Arial Ozar 5771.)  

Tuesday, December 15, 2020

Lighting Up The Soul

The haftorah for Chanukah starts with רני ושמחי בת ציון וכו.  We understand that the haftorah continues to mention the menorah but why start from this possuk, what does it have to do with Chanukah? 

The Malbim says that the word שמחה means an internal joy (see Malbim Yeshayahu 51:3)  The word רינה means an to sing/ shout out because of an arousal of one's emotions (see Even Ezra Eicha 2:19.)  The possuk says עבדו את ה בשמחה באו לפניו ברננה.  The Zohar (229b) says שמחה בצפרא ורננה ברמשא.  Why is simcha connected with the morning and רינה with the night?  The morning, day time is when things are clear.  In a spiritual perspective, it means that one is able to understand Godliness.  It is a אתערותא דלעילא, when one is being woken by Hashem's presence. There is on need to actively seek out Hashem.  One's joy is to accept the Heavenly awakening and be בשמחה.  When one is in the presence of the king they do not yell out, that would not be appropriate conduct.  When one "sees" Hashem then one's joy is contained.  The night is when things are not clear, when a person must search for Hashem.  There is a requirement of אתערותא דלתתא, the person must shout out, must actively seek out Hashem.

ציון means a symbol of Godly presence that occurs when Klal Yisroel is doing mitzvot.  The possuk says is golut Klal Yisroel is merely בת ציון, they receive Godliness from Hashem even though they are not doing it on their own.  We read this possuk on Chanukah for it is in the power of the holiday of Chanukah to light up even the פתח רה"ר.  Even the souls stuck in the darkness of the night will be lifted up by a special אתערותא דלעילא.  Even as we are just בת ציון, and cannot muster רינה, Hashem will give a אתערותא דלעילא to give us the inspiration to reach the level of רינה and then שמחה (based upon Torah Or Rani V'simchi #2.) 

The Sfas Emes (5633) says on the Gemorah (Shabbos 21b) פתילות ושמנים שאין מדליקים בהם בשבת מדליקים בחנוכה means that even souls that are incapable of feeling the light of Shabbos can be lit up with the chanukah lights.  The Emrei Emes (5675) brings from the Chidushay HaRim that is alluded to in the statement of Rebbe Chanina, מי שאמר לשמן וידליק יאמר לחומץ וידליק, even someone's soul who is bitter as vinegar can be lit up by the Chanukah lights.  

Why do we find the concept of the נר תמיד, of the continuity, specifically by the menorah?  In light of this we can say that the ner tammid hints to this idea that the neshama is tammid, constantly retains the dying embers that can be lit up by the neros (עם מלשון גחלים עוממות כמש"כ בשם משמואל בכ"מ.)

Saturday, December 12, 2020

דמות דיוקנו של אביו

From the Mir parsha sheet from the Mashgiach, Rav Chadash zatza"l.
איתא בגמ' (יומא ל"ה:) ת"ר עני ועשיר ורשע באין לדין: לעני אומרים לו מפני מה לא עסקת בתורה, אם אומר עני הייתי וטרוד במזונותי, אומרים לו כלום עני היית יותר מהלל. אמרו עליו על הלל הזקן שבכל יום ויום היה עושה ומשתכר בטרפעיק, חציו היה נותן לשומר בית המדרש וחציו לפרנסתו ולפרנסת אנשי ביתו, פעם אחת לא מצא להשתכר ולא הניחו שומר בית המדרש להיכנס, עלה ונתלה וישב על פי ארובה כדי שישמע דברי אלוקים חיים מפי שמעיה ואבטליון וכו', עשיר אומרים לו מפני מה לא עסקת בתורה, אם אומר עשיר הייתי וטרוד הייתי בנכסי, אומרים לו כלום עשיר היית יותר מרבי אלעזר, אמרו עליו על רבי אלעזר בן חרסום שהניח לו אביו אלף עיירות ביבשה וכנגדן אלף ספינות בים, ובכל יום ויום נוטל נאד של קמח על כתיפו ומהלך מעיר לעיר וממדינה למדינה ללמוד תורה וכו. רשע אומרים לו מפני מה לא עסקת בתורה, אם אומר נאה הייתי וטרוד ביצרי, אומרים לו כלום נאה היית יותר מיוסף, אמרו עליו על יוסף הצדיק בכל יום ויום היתה אשת פוטיפר משדלתו בדברים וכו'. נמצא הלל מחייב את העניים, רבי אלעזר בן חרסום מחייב את העשירים, יוסף מחייב את הרשעים.

למדים אנו מכאן שאין הקב"ה בא בטרוניא עם בריותיו ואינו שואל את הרשע 'מדוע הינך רשע', אלא שואל אותו הקב"ה 'למה לא עסקת בתורה'? וכלום יתכן שאין טרוניא על הרשע מדוע הוא רשע? אלא ע"כ הכוונה היא שאם היה לומד תורה כראוי לא היה רשע.

ובילקוט שמעוני (בפרשתנו רמז קמ"ה): מטרונא שאלה לר' יוסי אפשר יוסף בן י"ז שנה היה עומד בכל חומו ולא היה עושה את הדבר הזה? הביא לפניה ספר בראשית התחיל קורא מעשה ראובן ומעשה יהודה ותמר, א"ל ומה אלו שהם גדולים וברשות אביהם ולא כיסה עליהם הכתוב, זה שהיה קטן וברשות עצמו על אחת כמה וכמה.

וכתוב בפסוק (לט,ו) "ויהי יוסף יפה תואר ויפה מראה", ופירש רש"י: כיון שראה עצמו מושל התחיל אוכל ושותה ומסלסל בשערו, אמר הקב"ה אביך מתאבל ואתה מסלסל בשערך מגרה אני בך את הדב, מיד "ותשא אשת אדוניו".

ועל הפסוק "ויהי כהיום הזה ויבא הביתה לעשות מלאכתו" מפרש רש"י רב ושמואל חד אמר מלאכתו ממש, וחד אמר לעשות צרכיו עמה אלא שנראית לו דמות דיוקנו של אביו.

ובילקוט (בפרשתנו קמ"ו): נראה לו דמות דיוקנו של אביו אמר: יוסף עתידין אחיך שיכתבו על אבני האפוד ואתה עמהם, רצונך שימחק שמך מביניהם ותקרא "ורועה זונות יאבד הון" (משלי כ"ט), מיד "ותשב באיתן קשתו" וכו'.

ועוד איתא שם: "ולא שמע אליה" אמר רבי: שמע לה, אלא שהביא הקב"ה איקונין של אביו ונתבייש וברח. פעם שניה נכנס, נטל הקב"ה אבן שתיה א"ל אם תגע בה הריני משליכו ואחריב את העולם, הה"ד "ויפוזו זרועי ידיו מידי אביר יעקב משם רועה אבן ישראל".

ולכאורה קשה איך אומרים לרשע "כלום נאה היית יותר מיוסף", וכי אפשר להשוות רשע זה הנאה וטרוד ביצרו שגובר עליו ליוסף שניצל משום שהיתה לו דמות דיוקנו של אביו, ומפני שנטל הקב"ה את אבן השתיה ואיים להחריב את העולם?

אלא שלימדתנו התורה שכל אחד ואחד צריך תמיד להיות נגד עיניו את דמות דיוקנו של אביו או דמות דיוקנו של רבו שלמדו תורה הנחשב כאביו, ועי"ז האדם יוצר לעצמו דמות דיוקן אשר תשמור עליו מן היצר הרע ומן החטא.

Thursday, December 10, 2020

Your Kodesh Kodashim

Why did the only jug of oil found have to be sealed by the Kohan Gadol? The Maharal explains out that the numerical value of the word היכל is 65 and יון is 66 because יון was able to win against the power of kedusha.  However, in the word היכל there is a צירי which is like a hidden י.  That represents the hidden kedusha found deeper than the היכל and that is the kodesh kadashim.  The Kohan Gadol is able to tap into the power of the kodesh kadoshim as he can enter there.  That is why the numerical value of כהן is 75, 10 more than 65 because the כהן has the kedusha of the hidden י, a number that represents kedusha and that hidden level is inaccessible to the Greeks.  That is why what was found was a jug of oil with the Kohan Gadol's seal for that was the power that the Greeks could not defeat.  

What does it mean that the Greeks were able to win over the level of היכל but not over the kodesh kadoshim?  Although the היכל is kodesh, it is an outer layer of kedusha.  It represents the kedusha that a person acquires through learning Torah, doing mitzvot etc.  In Kabbalistic jargon, it is the לבושין of a person.  On this level יון is able to win.  The counter to such kedusha is the external beauty of the Greeks.  The Greeks appreciated aesthetics, they also agreed that לבושין are very important.  However, they replaced the לבושין of kedusha with that of tumah.  However, the innate kedusha that exists within a person, the kodesh kedoshim, the חכמה שבנפש is not something the Greeks could match up against.  They have no counter for this level of kedeusha.  The kodesh kodashim of the soul cannot be blackened out by the tumah of יון.  The Sfas Emes shtelztzu the Gemorah in Pesachim (7b) חיפוש מחיפוש וחיפוש מנרות ונרות מנר that the ner Chanukah can seek out the depths of the soul and bring it forth.  The ner Chanukah has a magnetic pull to bring out the kodesh kodashim of the person.  With this idea we can understand why Hashem made a miracle that the menorah should last.  Why the need for the miracle?  The numerical value of the name of אדנות is also 65.  The name of אדנות is used outside the Mikdash, where there is a covering up of  kedusha.  On that level יון was able to win.  However, when one taps into the kodesh kodashim, מקום ארון אינו מן המדה, there are no boundaries and hence miracles happen.  The miracle came to signify that how the miracle happened by tapping into the power of the kodesh kodashim.  (That is why the miracle started on the 26th day of כסלו, for it is connected to the name of הויה  above nature.)   

 In Megillas Taanis it says ומה ראו לעשות חנוכה שמונה ימים, והלא חנוכה שעשה משה במדבר לא עשה אלא שבעה ימים, שנאמר (ויקרא ח, לג): "וּמִפֶּתַח אֹהֶל מוֹעֵד לֹא תֵצְאוּ שִׁבְעַת יָמִים וְגוֹ'", ואומר: (במדבר ז, יב): "וַיְהִי הַמַּקְרִיב בַּיּוֹם הָרִאשׁוֹן אֶת קָרְבָּנוֹ וְגוֹ'", ובשביעי הקריב אפרים. וכן מצינו בחנוכה שעשה שלמה, שלא עשה אלא שבעת ימים, שנאמר: (דה"ב ז, ט): "כִּי חֲנֻכַּת הַמִּזְבֵּחַ עָשׂוּ שִׁבְעַת יָמִים, וְהֶחָג שִׁבְעַת יָמִים". מה ראו לעשות חנוכה זו שמונה ימים? אלא – בימי מלכות יון נכנסו בני חשמונאי להיכל, ובנו את המזבח, ושׂדוהו בשׂיד ותקנו בו כלי שרת והיו מתעסקין בו שמונה ימים.  It says that the holiday is 8 days because that was the length of time it took to do the חנוכת הבית.  (This answers the question of the Beis Yosef.)  The היכל had to be repaired from the damage of יון.  We celebrate restoring the kedusha to its place, understanding what are proper לבושין (see more about this here.)  

וַתִּתְפְּשֵׂ֧הוּ בְּבִגְד֛וֹ לֵאמֹ֖ר שִׁכְבָ֣ה עִמִּ֑י וַיַּעֲזֹ֤ב בִּגְדוֹ֙ בְּיָדָ֔הּ וַיָּ֖נׇס וַיֵּצֵ֥א הַחֽוּצָה.  Yosef was grabbed by his בגדים, his external garments.  Sunk into the tumah of Egypt, there was a chink in the armor.  However, when the need arose, he shed the external garments that had been infiltrated by Egyptian culture (see Divrei Yechezkal,) and was able to connect with his own kodesh kadoshim (see also Sichos HaRan #101.)   

Saturday, December 5, 2020

Reaching The Throne

The Gemorah in Chullin (91) says on the possuk of ויאבק איש עימו עד עלות השחר that אמר רבי יהושע בן לוי, מלמד שהעלו אבק מרגלותם, עד כיסא הכבוד.  Why do Chazal say the dust went up to the כסא הכבוד?  And what is the point of knowing how much dust they raised?  I was thinking over Shabbos b'derech derush to connect this Chazal with a different place Chazal use the term עד כסא הכבוד.  The Gemorah Yoma 86a says  אמר רבי לוי: גדולה תשובה, שמגעת עד כסא הכבוד, שנאמר (הושע יד, ב): "שובה ישראל עד ה' אלוהיך.  The fight between the שר of עשו and Yaakov was not just a one-time fight but is the fight through all generations of the future.  The story in the Chumash is merely round one.  What is the guarantee that Klal Yisroel will survive through the final rond, how do we know they will emerge victorious?  The answer is תשובה.  Teshuva is a gift given only to Klal Yisroel.  We may become soiled in the dirt of Esev, but eventually we will will because of the power of teshuva.  That is why Chazal say the dust reached the כסא הכבוד. Up until where teshuva is accepted, the dust, the dirt of Esev will rise, but it stops there, at that point teshuva will redeem a person. 

The Gemorah in Shabbos (98b) says that after the malachim complained how can Torah be given to mankind, Hashem told Moshe אחוז בכסא כבודי וחזר להם תשובה.  The Or Gedalyahu says that this was Moshe's answer.  The advantage of man over the malachim is that man has the ability to reach the כסא הכבוד through teshuva.  Such great heights can never be reached by a malach.  It is this power of tesuva that gives us the advantage of the malachim and gurantees victory over Esev.  

Thursday, December 3, 2020

The Malachim

וַיִּשְׁלַ֨ח יַעֲקֹ֤ב מַלְאָכִים֙ לְפָנָ֔יו.  The word לפניו seems extra, obviously the malachim went before him?  Why does Yaakov tell Lavan תריג מצות שמרתי?  The Lev Eliyahu says that לפניו means that Yaakov sent the malachim that went before him, those created by his own actions.  A person's mitzvot create malachim and it was those malachim that Yaakov sent.  That is the message of תריג מצות שמרתי, that the malachim were a product of the mitzvot.  Why does it matter what type of malachim Yaakov sent?  What Yaakov was trying to do was not merely to deflect Esev but to see if he could arouse from within him his genetic traits from the Avos.  By sending mitzva malachim, Yaakov was hoping that there would be a magnetic pull to Esev's innards and he would repent.  It was not a complete failure as Esev let him go peacefully in their encounter (see Shem M'Shmuel.)  

Why did Esev come with 400 men?  4 is the number of פירוד.  The number 400 is 4*100, the most extreme פירוד.  That is reflected is Esev's statement, יש לי רב.  He viewed his possessions as many things, they were separate items.  Yaakov sees everything as one yesod.  Everything in the world is a reflection of the ultimate יחוד and hence he says יש לי כל, it is one complete unit (see Or Hachaim and Sfas Emes.)  That is the message of the stones under Yaakov's head combining into one rock.  

A quick thought on 19 Kislev.  The gematria of אדם is 45.  The gematria of  the name of Hashem is 26.  The bridge is 19.  It is chasidic thought that describes in great detail the concept of yichud Hashem.  That is part of the celebration of 19 Kislev.   

Born Again

 Rashi at the end of Vayishlach points out the discrepancy in the name of the daughter of Yishmael, Esev's wife, if its Machalas of Basmas.  Rashi says (36:3)  בשמת בת ישמעאל – ולהלן קורא לה: מחלת (בראשית כ״ח:ט׳). מצאתי בהגדה מדרש ספר שמואל (מדרש שמואל פרק י״ז): שלשה מוחלין על כל עוונותיהם: גר משמתגייר, והעולה לגדולה, והנושא אשה. ולמד הטעם מיכן, לכך נקראת מחלת, שנמחלו עוונתיו.  The most understandable of the three is the convert for they become like a new person, but why do the other two get their sins annulled? 

Dayan Fisher suggests that one who gets married or is promoted to a position also has a certain element of becoming a new person. 




Thursday, November 26, 2020

The Art of Gratitude

An article of Rabbi Y.Y. Jacobson 

It is a perplexing response in this week’s Torah portion, Vayeitzei. Rachel, who has been childless for many years, gives birth. In the words of the Torah: “And she conceived and bore a son, and she said, "God has taken away my shame."  What type of shame was she referring to? What shame is there in infertility, which is not her fault? Sarah and Rebecca were also barren, but we never hear that they were ashamed. In the world of Torah, there is no room for shame for a condition you never caused. Pain, anguish, or jealousy are sentiments we can appreciate, but why shame?

Rashi presents the astounding and disturbing answer in the Midrash: The Aggadah (Midrash Rabbah 73:5) explains it: As long as a woman has no child, she has no one to blame for her faults. As soon as she has a child, she blames him. “Who broke this dish? Your child!” “Who ate these figs? Your child!”Rachel was previously ashamed because she had nobody to blame for any errors, oversights, or flaws. The food was burnt? Rachel must be a lousy cook. The keys to the car are lost? Rachel is irresponsible. Rachel is in a bad mood? She is impulsive and irrational. A plate breaks? She is a shlimazal. The couch is dirty? She is a lazy couch potato. The home is unkempt? Rachel just can’t get it together. Ah, but now, with the birth of Joseph, the shame is gone. The food burnt because the baby ran a fever, and she had to rush him to the doctor. The keys to the car lost? The baby got a hold of them and cast them in the dustbin. The plate broke? The baby dropped it. The couch is dirty? The baby decided to have his ice cream on the couch. The house is a mess? Of course, the baby is at fault.  So, if I am understanding this correctly, that is why Rachel who was childless for 13 years wanted a baby—not for the incredible experience of creating a life, not for the infinite joy of having a child,  not for the happiness that comes with the singular mother-child relationship—all of this was not the motivating factor. Why did Rachel want a child? So that she has somebody to blame for getting the turkey and cranberry sauce all over the floor?!  Absurd or what? Our mother Rachel, barren and infertile, was yearning for a child—to the point of her telling Jacob: “If I don’t have children I am dead”—So that she blame all her mistakes on her child?  What is more, this seems so dishonest. If Rachel did not really make errors like breaking dishes and eating up figs, she would have not been ashamed to begin with. If she did, and she was constantly getting embarrassed, what exactly was her comfort now? That when she breaks a china plate she will lie and say that her child did it?  What is even more disturbing is that she names her baby “Yosef,” which means removed, to celebrate the fact that now her shame has been “removed” (asaf). You are giving your child whom you waited for so many years a name which represents your newfound ability now to blame him for your mistakes?!  How can we make sense of this perplexing Midrash?

Of course, we need to dig deeper to uncover the gems contained here. In essence, Rachel was teaching us one of the primary secrets to live a life of gratitude. In all our lives there is a gap between what we have, and what we want. No one gets everything. And even when we are given blessings, the “package” comes with “fine print” you may have not realized in the beginning. Human nature is to focus on that which we are missing, while forgetting that which we have. We take our blessings for granted and we obsess about the missing pieces.  Rachel knew about the human proclivity to focus on the negative instead of the positive, and that even after you experienced an extraordinary gift, after a while you take it for granted and begin kvetching about the imperfections. To counterbalance this human recipe for misery, she exclaimed, “G-d has removed my shame,” to remind herself of the idea that she must attribute the things going wrong to her child. When your child breaks the dish or eats the figs, remember that the only reason you have this problem is because you were blessed with a child. When your child breaks something or eats up the fresh food you made for the guests, attribute the problem to your child, to the miracle and blessing of having a child.  You can say: Oy, my child MADE A MESS. Or you can say: Thank G-d, MY CHILD made a mess. Same words, but with a different emphasis.It is the Jewish custom that when a glass breaks, we shout: Mazal Tov! When the groom breaks the glass under the chuppah, we exclaim Mazal Tov! Why don’t we say: Oy, 10 dollars down the drain? This is Rachel’s gift: When the plate breaks, be grateful. It means you have a home; you own dishes. When your husband breaks something, say: Mazal Tov! Thank goodness, I married a human being, not an angel.

With the hunch of a mother, Rachel decided to immortalize this message in the name of her child, Yosef, meaning “G-d removed my shame.” This became the secret of Joseph’s success.  Joseph endured enormous pain and suffering. His brothers despised him, they sold him into slavery, he was accused of promiscuity, and thrown into a dungeon for twelve years. And yet throughout his entire life, Joseph never lost his joy, grace, passion for life, love for people, ambition to succeed, and his ability to forgive. Joseph comes across as one of the most integrated, wholesome, cheerful, loveable persons in the entire Tanach. With a life story like his, we would expect him to be bitter, cynical, resentful, angry, stone-like, and harsh. “A rock feels no pain and an island never cries,” yet Joseph weeps more than everyone in the Bible.

How did he do this? This, perhaps, was his mother’s gift. Though she died when he was nine years of age, she infused him with perspective on how to live: Every challenge can only exist because it has a blessing as its backdrop. I feel pain? But that means I am alive, and I have feelings. It also means that there is something new I must discover about myself and the world. I am hurt, but that means that I I am sensitive, and I can be here for people. I have a conflict with my spouse? That means that I am blessed to have a soul partner who cares for me, and that we have an opportunity to create a deeper relationship. My children challenge me? That means I have children whom I love, and I am given an opportunity to dig deeper and find the light beyond the darkness.

When your husband comes home late from work, instead of thinking: He is so irresponsible and unreliable, you can choose to say: Thank G-d I have a husband, who loves me and cares for me, and he has a job he loves, and works hard. (Sure, speak to him about coming him on time, but choose what you will focus on). When your mother or father call you for help, instead of saying to yourself: Oy, my entire life must revolve around her needs, say instead: Thank G-d I have parents.  When you come into the office and you experience overload, with 90 emails to respond to, six different options for future growth, tell yourself: Thank G-d I have a job, I have six different options, I have so much to do, I am busy and productive, and I am driven.  When your wife rebukes you for your mistakes, instead of thinking, why do I need someone who criticized me? Say to yourself: I am so grateful to I have a wife who cares about me so deeply.  When your kids or grandkids make a “balagan” in your home and turn the place upside down, don’t zoom in exclusively on the mess; rather focus on the fact that you have children and grandchildren who are filled with good spirit.  When your car breaks down and you must get it towed, instead of cursing your lot, say to yourself: I own a car. That puts me in the one percent bracket superior to most humans on this planet.

Chassidim tell a story about the holy Reb Zusha of Anipoli. When he was a child, he often went hungry. But he was always thankful. Once, when he was really hungry, someone overheard him talking to G-d. This is what he said: G-d, I want to thank you so much for giving me an appetite!  Even the hunger he experienced as something that can exist only in the context of a blessing. G-d gave me an appetite.

Above The Norm

Yaakov learns for 14 years before traveling out to חרן.  Then he travels sees in the place of the mikdash, how does it make sense that after the preparation of 14 years of learning without sleep he sleeps in the place of the mikdash?  The 14 years of learning represent suppressing the 7 bad traits and refining the 7 good traits (Emrei Yosef.)  That was the most completion Yaakov could reach.  When a person sleeps the normal levels of the brain's capabilities are limited.  When sleeping usually one lays down in a manner where the head is on the same level as one's legs.  There is no advantage of the brain being used.  It is in sleep that one can access a level above the normal capacities that a person can reach.  That is why it was important for Yaakov to sleep in such a holy place, in order to access  a level that cannot be obtained even through complete self perfection.  The Shem M'Shmuel (5681) says that  Yaakov took a neder, נ' דר to tap into the 'שער נ above the normal order of the world to remove any issue of שמא יגרום החטא.  In order to be ready for חרן אף של מקום one needs to be tapped into a level above the natural order.   

Friday, November 20, 2020

Yeshivas Esev

Rav Yitzchak Isaac Sher:





It comes out according to the picture he is painting that Esev was also a Rosh Yeshiva.  The difference between Esev and Yaakov was if they had a desire and were striving to constantly grow.
In the Divrei Siach it brings that the Chazon Eish did not like turning Esev into such a great talmud chacham.

Thursday, November 19, 2020

Yaakov In Disguise

Yaakov receives his name because he was grabbing onto Esev's heel.  Why is that a significant fact to name after, how does that accurately describe Yaakov? Everyone asks why did Yitzchok want to give the blessings to Esev? 

The Sefer Hachaim (Maharal's brother) in Geulah Ch. 8 explains that had Yitzchok given the berachot to Yaakov directly, then the berachot would have been shared with the future generations only if they are acting like Yaakov.  Therefore, Hashem designed the plan that Yitzchok should intent to give the berachot to Esev so that the berachot will always be given to the future generations for they are no worse then Esev.  The Rim says that is why Yaakov had to receive the berachot wearing the clothes of Esev.  This demonstrates that even if a Jew looks like Esev, they will still merit the berachot.  The Sfas Emes adds even if the ידים are ידי עשו, the קול that emanates from the ויפח באפיו is still קול יעקב.  The Yismoch Yisroel says that is what it means  'ראה ריח בני כריח שדה אשר ברכו ה.  Just as if one is in a nice smelling garden, even if some fertilizer is added, the bad smell is temporary, but does not ruin the innate smell of the field, so too the soul of the Jew may be tainted by some bad smells, but the sweet smell of the soul is never ruined.  That is why Yaakov is named after grapping Esev's heel.  This means that even one who has fallen into the traps of Esev has a little Yaakov pulling them back.  Yaakov didn't need the berachot for his own merit, it the guarantee that a little Yaakov will remain inside every Jew.

A Letz

 Rashi at the beginning of the parsha says אברהם הוליד את יצחק. לפי שהיו ליצני הדור אומרים: מאבימלך נתעברה שרה, שהרי כמה שנים שהתה עם אברהם ולא נתעברה הימנו. מה עשה הקב״ה, צר קלסתר פניו דומה לאברהם, כדי שיאמרו הכל: אברהם הוליד את יצחק. וזהו שכתוב כאן: יצחק בן אברהם היה, שהרי עדות יש שאברהם הוליד את יצחק.

Why are these people called latzim, call them rishaim because they deny the miracle?  The Briskor Rav:




They acknowledged a miracle, but missed the point. The point of a miracle is the conclusion, not to marvel at the miracle.

Monday, November 16, 2020

Gentile's Rights

 Rashi (24:57) ונשאלה פיה – שאין משיאין אשה אלא לדעתה.  The Maharal asks but he was going to whisk her away even when her father was alive?  He answers  ואין זה קשיא, דבתואל גוי היה, ואין זכות לגוי בבתו לקדשה, ורבקה גיורת הואי, ויתומה.  We see the Maharal holds that a gentile father does not have any rights over the marriage of his daughter.  Rav Yosef Engel also assumes the fathers' right over the marriage of his daughter is a unique chiddush said to a yisroel.  However, he suggests that possibly even a gentile can marry of their daughter because we assume she will want her father's marriage, the possuk of אֶת בִּתִּי נָתַתִּי לָאִישׁ הַזֶּה  that tells us the din by a yisroel is to add that she can not object even when she grows up.  With this idea he explains a Rashi.  The Gemorah in Kiddushin (61b) asks בשלמא לר' מאיר היינו דכתיב (בראשית כד, מא) אז תנקה מאלתי אלא לרבי חנינא בן גמליאל למה לי. "The Gemara asks another question: Granted, according to the opinion of Rabbi Meir, this is the reason that it is written, with regard to Abraham’s instruction to Eliezer to bring a wife for Isaac: “Then you shall be clear from my oath…if they will not give her to you” (Genesis 24:41). However, according to the opinion of Rabbi Ḥanina ben Gamliel, why do I need this addition? The positive formulation of the oath already indicates the negative."  The Gemorah answers איצטריך סלקא דעתך אמינא היכא דניחא לה לדידה ולא ניחא ליה לדידהו מייתי בעל כרחייהו קא משמע לן.  Rashi says the לדידהו is לקרובים.  Why do the relatives have a say?  Rav Yosef Engel says since they don't want it it removes the assumption that she would have wanted the marriage because even her relatives don't want the marriage.   

It is possible that if the din of a father's control over his daughters marriage would apply to a gentile depends on the machlokes Rishonim as to how to understand this din.  The Ritva in Kiddushin 3b says the father has ownership over his daughter and hence can marry her off.  However, it seems that Rashi there and 5b in Kiddushin disagrees and holds that the father is merely granted rights of being able to "sell" her into marriage, but he doesn't actually own her.  Rashi in Ketubot (47a) says we know the father can do nissuin for his daughter as well because it says את בתי נתתי and נתתי included all forms of giving over.  Tosfos asks why do we have to derive it from the possuk, just learn it out from kiddushin?  The Shitah answers that we don't learn out monetary issues from issur.  Tosfos couldn't answer that because he holds the law of kiddushin is also a monetary law, that the father owns his daughter.  According to the approach of Rashi this would be a chiddush din only by a yisroel but one could argue according to Tosfos that understands the Torah is teaching us a law of ownership, that law applies to gentiles as well for they also own things.  However, it is possible this is a new type of ownership only applicable to a yisroel.   

Sunday, November 15, 2020

A Heartless Prayer

 אין שיחה אלא תפלה.  So why is it not included on the list of the 10 expressions of prayer (midrash beginning of Vaeschana)?  Chazal prove שיחה means tefillah from the possuk תפלה לעני כי יעטף ולפני ה' ישפוך שיחו Tehillim (102:1.)  אין עני אלא בדעת.  The עני does not feel he is worthy to pray, he is in a state of מוחין דקטנות, he is in the שדה, working outside, not in prayer mode.  The most the person can muster is a שיחה, a talking where the mouth is moving but the heart is not there.  The שיחה is not counted as an expression of prayer because it does not even make it to the bottom rung of the ladder of prayer.  As Rebbe Nechman says (Histapchus Hanefesh #2) sometimes a person is so far removed he can't even open his mouth to pray, yet that itself should arouse a person to discuss this with himself and that itself will be his prayer, that Hashem will allow him to pray.  Yet, the fact that a person impromptu is willing to pray to Hashem is itself sometimes the greatest prayer (based upon shmuz from Rabbi Elefant with a different twist.)  By turning to Hashem even though one does not feel like are u pto the ask, it awakens their doormat soul to connect to Hashem.  The word שיח also means growth like שיח השדה.  As Rav Kook explains שיחה, תקרא התפילה בשם משתתף עם צמחים ואילנות, שנקראו שיחים על שם הפרחת הנפש בכוחות חדשים, המסתעפים באופן טבעי ע"י רגשות הנפש בעבודה שבלב. וזה המעמד ראוי ביותר לעת מנחת ערב, שהאדם קרוב להסיר מעליו הטרדות הזמניות, אז תוכל נפשו להתרומם בטבעה, ורגשי קודש הטבעיים האצורים בתוכה לדבקה באלהים חיים ולהתגבר באהבתו ויראתו הטהורה, יוסיפו פרי תנובה וישלחו בדים ופארות, להיות כדמות אילן רב ואחד השיחים. וההפרחה הטבעית הזאת מיושר הנפש היא שורש להנהגת הדין למי שנוטה מנתיב יושר של ארחות חיים, כי מרת הדין היא ביחוד מדוקדקת בכל דבר שיש לה חק טבעי, שהמשנה דרכה ונוטה מנתיבה יקבל עונש מוטבע. והיא מדתו של יצחק, כדכתיב קראי "ופחד יצחק הי' לי". וכדאמרי רבנן ברב ביאור. ע"כ יאתה שם "שיחה" לתפילת המנחה.   By praying when one does not feel in it, it will bring forth their soul to sprout forth.  

The Meor Einayim Ki Sesa brings from the Besht: והנה אמר מורי הבעש״ט נשמתו בגנזי מרומים תפלה לעני כי יעטוף ולפני ה׳ ישפוך שיחו (תהלים ק״ב, א׳) על דרך משל שהמלך ביום שמחתו הכריז שכל מי שצריך דבר אל המלך כל מה שחסר לו איזה דבר ינתן לו מגנזי המלך והנה נקבצו ובאו כל איש ואיש זה שואל מחסורו וזה שואל מתנות אבנים טובות וכדומה לכולם צוה על ידי שלוחיו להנתן מבית גנזי המלך והנה איש אחד חכם ועני ולא שאל שום דבר רק שיניחו אותו לדבר בכל יום ויום עם המלך בעצמו ועל ידי זה כל טוב לא יחסר לו כי כלום חסר מבית המלך אמנם אותן האנשים קבלו על ידי שליח והשליח של המלך יש לו גבו על תפקידו ולא יכול להוסיף דבר משאל כן המלך בעצמו אין קצה לאוצרותיו והכל בידו וכן האדם העובד בבחינה זו דהיינו שכל בקשתו וחפצו רק שיניחו אותו לדבר עם המלך אזי כל טוב אדוניו בידו וזהו תפלה לעני רצה לומר התפלה שהיא ענייה שאינו מבקש דבר והיא עוטפות כל התפלות ומפרש הוא שמתפלל שלפני ה׳ ישפוך שיחו שידבר עם המלך בעצמו זו כל מגמתו ונמצא זה דבוק בבעל הרצון יתברך שמו כמבואר למעלה.  It is the עני who comes with nothing and is ill prepared to ask for anything whose prayer is the best.  It is the עני whose ife is so hard they can only come forth with a שיחה whoe's prayer is desired.  (Similar idea cited in Toldot Yaakov Yosef Vaeschanan with a lightly different interpretation of the verse.) 

מענין לענין, the Alexander Rebbe (חשבה לטובה) brings:



 

Thursday, November 12, 2020

A Well And A Conversation

Why do we have 4 אמהות but only 3 אבות?  Why is the principle of יפה שיתחתן של עבדי אבות learnt from a conversation regarding the marriage of Yitzchak and Rivka?  The midrash points out that Yitzchak, Yaakov and Moshe all found their soul mate by a well.  What is the connection between a well, a באר and finding a שידוך? 

The number four represents the completion of the physical world.  The number three is full unit when dealing with spiritual energy (see Shabbat 88a.)  The Maharal often writes that woman are חומר and men are צורה.   In the words of the Kabbalists, men are חכמה and women are בינה.  It is the same idea.  Men provide the אור, they are in the abstract world but it has no form, no כלי for the ideas to settle in.  That is where the woman come in.  They take the ideas and work out the details, work out the כלי and give it solid ground. What this may mean is that the men the basic structure, the woman builds the foundation.  The man is in charge of decided the abstract ideas.   It is a similar idea, men are focused on the idea in its abstract form, women are detail focused, how it will work out in the practical life. 

רבי אליעזר בן הורקנוס, בור סוד שאינו מאבד טפה. ורבי אלעזר בן ערך, כמעין המתגבר.  Rashi in Ke Sesa (31: 3) says בְּחָכְמָה – מַה שֶּׁאָדָם שׁוֹמֵעַ דְּבָרִים מֵאֲחֵרִים וְלָמֵד.וּבִתְבוּנָה – מֵבִין דָּבָר מִלִּבּוֹ מִתּוֹךְ דְּבָרִים שֶׁלָּמַד.  The בור  represents חכמה and the מעין  represents בינה.  The combination of both of them is the באר.  It holds water and produces more.  That is why the combination of both of these, the שידוך, takes place at a באר (see Beis Yishai derashot #41.) 

יפה שיתחתן של עבדי אבות.  The Gemorah in Sukkah (21b) says אמר רב אחא בר אדא אמר רב המנונא אמר רב: מנין שאפילו שיחת תלמידי חכמים צריכה לימוד - שנאמר ועלהו לא יבול".  The reason is that גדול שימושה של תורה יותר מלימודה (Berachot 7b.)  The practical application of the תורת האבות gives more direction than the actual study itself.  That is why this principal is taught specifically in the process of finding the wife for Yitzchok.  Because it is the שיחת האבות that is most recognizable is the אמהות.  That is why this principal of יפה שיתחתן של עבדי אבות is learnt from Eliezer's find of Rivka.  

The אמהות relationship with Hashem was always that of שיחה.  As it says in Likutay Sichos volume 31 Yisro, דהנה אנו רואים שאצל נשים יש יותר בגילוי אמונה בה' ויראת ה', שאף שהטעם לזה בגלוי הוא לפי "שאין שכלם חזק כל כך (שלכן) קרובים (יותר) לקבל באמונה (פשוטה) ועושות בלי חקירה", הרי שורש הענין הוא לפי שמאירה אצלם האמונה כפי שהוא מצד הקב"ה.  They are naturally "more connected" and can have a שיחה with Hashem.  That is what it means that tefillah is a שיחה.  The Gemorah Berachot (26b) says ויצא יצחק לשוח בשדה means he went to pray, יצחק תקן תפלת מנחה שנאמר (בראשית כד, סג) ויצא יצחק לשוח בשדה לפנות ערב ואין שיחה אלא תפלה שנאמר (תהלים קב, א) תפלה לעני כי יעטף ולפני ה' ישפוך שיחו.  Why is prayer called שיחה, a conversation?  Steisaltz ז"צל writes ולעומת גישה זו, קיימת גישה אחרת, שונה במידה רבה כל כך. "אין שיחה אלא תפילה". כאן מובנת התפילה לא ביחס ערטילאי בין אדם וקונו; כאן היחס בין האדם לבין קונו הוא לבבי ואישי "אין שיחה אלא תפילה" ואין התפילה אלא שיחה, השתפכות נפשו של האדם, כפי שמביאה הגמרא "תפילה לעני כי יעטוף, ולפני ה' ישפוך שיחו" (תהילים ק"ב). כלומר, משיח האדם את לבו לפני אלוקיו. אלוקיו, מתגלה עתה לא בדמות האלוקות הפילוסופית, הכוח העליון הנשגב של מעלה, אלא כאב הרחום, הקרוב תמיד, שהאדם משוחח עמו, שהוא מנסה להתקרב אליו, ושהוא רוצה גם לשמוע תשובתו. "אין שיחה אלא תפילה"- והשיחה היא יחס כפול של שאלה ותשובה. התפילה היא הדו שיח הנצחי שבין האדם לקונו- תפילה של שיחה.  The prayer of a conversation is a way in which approaches prayer.  One approaches G-d with a conversation, as a close friend that one can converse with.  That is the approach of יפה שיחתן, of the אמהות. 

Tuesday, November 10, 2020

Forget The Rain

The Rambam Tefillah (10:9) rules if one forgot to say ותן טל ומתר and they already passed שומע תפילה then they must go back to ברכת השנים.  However, Rav Hai Gaon cited in Rashba  Berachot (29a) rules that one goes back to say it in שומע תפילה.  The question on the Rambam is that the Yerushalmi Taanis (2a-b) is explicit like Rav Hai (see Tosfos Berachot 29b)?  We can understand the law of mentioning ותן טל ומתר two ways.  One way that Chazal instituted initially to ask for rain in ברכת השנים but if it wasn't mentioned then, you ask in שומע תפילה, it is part of the takanah of Chazal.  The other way is that the takanah is only to ask in ברכת השנים, the reason it can be added in שומע תפילה is because it is no different than any other request that can be asked for in שומע תפילה.  Rav Hutner says this is the machlokes between the Bavli and Yerushalmi that Tosfos Berachot points out.  The Yerushalmi holds for גבורת גשמים, משיב הרוח you can also mention it in שומע תפילה.  Mentioning משיב הרוח is not a request, it is a שבח.  So it must be the Yerushalmi holds that Chazal enacted that you can mention rain in שומע תפילה, therefore it says if you forgot ותן טל ומתר, you go back to that beracha.  The Bavli on the other hand holds if משיב הרוח is forgotten you go back to the beginnig of Shemonei Esrai because the Bavli holds mentioning in שומע תפילה only helps like any other request as Tosfos Berachot 29a says.  Hence, if ותן טל ומתר was omitted, it is not enough to return to שומע תפילה, but one must return to its place in the prayer, at ברכת השנים.  That is why the Rambam rules not the Yerushalmi, because the Bavli disagrees.

Asking For Forgiveness

The Rambam Chovel U'mazzik (5:9) אֵינוֹ דּוֹמֶה מַזִּיק חֲבֵרוֹ בְּגוּפוֹ לְמַזִּיק מָמוֹנוֹ. שֶׁהַמַּזִּיק מָמוֹן חֲבֵרוֹ כֵּיוָן שֶׁשִּׁלֵּם מַה שֶּׁהוּא חַיָּב לְשַׁלֵּם נִתְכַּפֵּר לוֹ. אֲבָל חָבַל בַּחֲבֵרוֹ אַף עַל פִּי שֶׁנָּתַן לוֹ חֲמִשָּׁה דְּבָרִים אֵין מִתְכַּפֵּר לוֹ. וַאֲפִלּוּ הִקְרִיב כָּל אֵילֵי נְבָיוֹת אֵינוֹ מִתְכַּפֵּר לוֹ וְלֹא נִמְחַל עֲוֹנוֹ עַד שֶׁיְּבַקֵּשׁ מִן הַנֶּחְבָּל וְיִמְחל לוֹ:  The Lechem Mishna asks this contradicts what the Rambam writes in Teshuvah (2:9)  that it is not enough to return the stolen goods but one must appease the wronged party as well?  The Kesef Mishne Laws of Teshuva  points to two sources for the Rambam.  One is the Mishne Bava Kammah (92a)  אע"פ שהוא נותן לו אין נמחל לו עד שיבקש ממנו שנאמר (בראשית כ, ז) ועתה השב אשת וגו'.  The second is the Gemorah Yoma (85b) דרש ר' אלעזר בן עזריה (ויקרא טז, ל) מכל חטאתיכם לפני ה' תטהרו עבירות שבין אדם למקום יוה"כ מכפר עבירות שבין אדם לחבירו אין יוה"כ מכפר עד שירצה את חבירו.  Why do we need two sources for this halacha? 

Rav Eliyahu Baruch explains we see in the Rambam there are two dinim in asking for forgiveness.  One is a din in teshuva, the limud in Yoma tells us that one's teshuva is not complete until they appease the wronged.  In Bava Kammah, as the name of the tractate indicates, it is a law in damages.  When it comes to paying for damage goods, the obligation is to reimburse the one damaged.  For that one does not need to ask for forgiveness.  However, is one causes bodily harm to another individual, no payment can fully make that up.  That is what the Mishna in B.K. sees from the story of Avimelech.  He was a gentile, not commanded in teshuva, his request for michela is a choval u'mazzik law, in order to compensate for causing damage to another person, appeasement is required.  That is why the Rambam limits this law to causing bodily pain for causing monetary damage it suffices to merely repay for the damage.  With this we can understand other differences in the Rambam in the two laws.  In Teshuva he writes, צָרִיךְ לְפַיְּסוֹ וְלִפְגֹּעַ בּוֹ עַד שֶׁיִּמְחל לוֹ. לֹא רָצָה חֲבֵרוֹ לִמְחל לוֹ מֵבִיא לוֹ שׁוּרָה שֶׁל שְׁלֹשָׁה בְּנֵי אָדָם מֵרֵעָיו וּפוֹגְעִין בּוֹ וּמְבַקְּשִׁין מִמֶּנּוּ. לֹא נִתְרַצָּה לָהֶן מֵבִיא לוֹ שְׁנִיָּה וּשְׁלִישִׁית. לֹא רָצָה מְנִיחוֹ וְהוֹלֵךְ לוֹ וְזֶה שֶׁלֹּא מָחַל הוּא הַחוֹטֵא.  Why does he add פיוס ורצוי ןמ the Laws of Teshuva but not in the Laws of Chovel U'mazzik?  Furthermore, why does he mention 3 times is the charm in the Laws of Teshuva but in Choval he indicates you must receive mechilah?  Because in Chovel, the point is to receive the pardon of the damaged for the damage caused, for that it is enough to receive a pardon.  On the other hand, if a pardon is not received, there still is a monetary obligation upon you.  For teshuva, more than a pardon is necessary, you must appease him.  On the other hand, once you did your obligation to attempt to do teshuva, 3 times, more is not required. 

The end of the Mishna in Bava Kammah says ומנין שאם לא מחל לו שהוא אכזרי שנאמר (בראשית כ, יז) ויתפלל אברהם אל האלהים וירפא אלהים את אבימלך וגו'.  The Rambam cites this halacha in three places.  In the Laws of Deot (6:6) he says וְאִם חָזַר וּבִקֵּשׁ מִמֶּנּוּ לִמְחֹל לוֹ צָרִיךְ לִמְחֹל. וְלֹא יְהֵא הַמּוֹחֵל אַכְזָרִי שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר (בראשית כ יז) "וַיִּתְפַּלֵּל אַבְרָהָם אֶל האלקים.  In Teshuva (2:10) he adds that there is an issur not to be mochel.  אָסוּר לָאָדָם לִהְיוֹת אַכְזָרִי וְלֹא יִתְפַּיֵּס אֶלָּא יְהֵא נוֹחַ לִרְצוֹת וְקָשֶׁה לִכְעֹס וּבְשָׁעָה שֶׁמְּבַקֵּשׁ מִמֶּנּוּ הַחוֹטֵא לִמְחל מוֹחֵל בְּלֵב שָׁלֵם וּבְנֶפֶשׁ חֲפֵצָה.  In Chovel (5:10) he adds details for when one should be mochel, וְאָסוּר לַנֶּחְבָּל לִהְיוֹת אַכְזָרִי וְלֹא יִמְחל אֵין זוֹ דֶּרֶךְ זֶרַע יִשְׂרָאֵל אֶלָּא כֵּיוָן שֶׁבִּקֵּשׁ מִמֶּנּוּ הַחוֹבֵל וְנִתְחַנֵּן לוֹ פַּעַם רִאשׁוֹנָה וּשְׁנִיָּה וְיָדַע שֶׁהוּא שָׁב מֵחֶטְאוֹ וְנִחָם עַל רָעָתוֹ יִמְחל לוֹ. וְכָל הַמְמַהֵר לִמְחל הֲרֵי הוּא מְשֻׁבָּח וְרוּחַ חֲכָמִים נוֹחָה הֵימֶנּוּ:  Why does he add that here?  The Rebbe (Likutay Sichos volume 28 Chukas sicha 2) explains that it depends who the focus is on.  In Deot, the focus is on the person doing the mechilah, his deot.  From that perspective, one should grant mechilah once it is asked for and not be cruel to hold out for a more serious expression of regret.  In Choval, the focus is on the one who caused the damage.  One should grant mechilah to that person only after he has seriously fulfilled his obligation of seriously asking for a pardon in order to ascertain the damager fulfilled their obligation of asking for a pardon. In Teshuvah, the focus is on the appeasement of the damager to the one damaged for that is his obligation in teshuvah, he must appease the damaged party and hence he says when he has been appeased, it is forbidden for the damaged party to be cruel and withhold forgiveness.

Thursday, November 5, 2020

Find Your Place

After sinning Adam is banished from Gan Eden.  After Cain kills Abel, he is told נע ונד תהיה בארץ.  One who kills by accident must go to גלות and of course we are still in what we call the golut.  The common theme is that all we see the punishment/ atonement for sin requires exile.  Why is exile necessary because of sin? 

The Sfas Emes Massey (5634) says כמ"ש אא"ז מו"ר ז"ל על מ"ש בצרה תקלוט כבצר כי השי"ת נתן ערי מקלט למי שיודע שאין לו מקום ע"י שנזדמן לו חטא גדול כזה להרוג נפש. וזה עצמו נותן לו מקום שהשי"ת נותן מקום למי שאין לו אבל כשסומך עצמו על זה המקום אינו נותן לו כו' ודפח"ח. נמצא כי עיקר מקומו מה שיודע שאין לו מקום. וזה עצמו תיקון החטא כפי מה שהוא מתחרט לפני השי"ת ואינו מוצא לו מקום כמו כן חטא שלו ומלאך המשחית אינו מוצא לו מקום והשי"ת נותן לכולם מקום וז"ש יורה חטאים כו'. ובס' תומר דבורה מהרב הרמ"ק כתב שזה חסד גדול מהשי"ת שנותן מקום להמשחית שבא ע"י חטא האדם כו' ע"ש:

The Gemorah in Makkot (12a) says אמר ריש לקיש שלש טעיות עתיד שרו של רומי לטעות דכתיב (ישעיהו סג, א) מי זה בא מאדום חמוץ בגדים מבצרה טועה שאינה קולטת אלא בצר וכו.  What does this mean, how can an angel make such a mistake?  The Sfas Emes Vayeshev (5664) explains the difference is if it is a description of the city or the name of it.  בצר is a description, it means a walled city.  בצרה  is the name of the city, but not necessarily descriptive.  It is only when a person recognizes that they don't have a place, that they have lost their way, that Hashem protects over them and protects them.  When a person relies on the protection of the city itself, when the city becomes just a name, בצרה, but loses the point, then it does not save them. 

This may be alluded to in the teaching of Chazal Berachot (6b) about the importance of being קובע מקום לתפילתו.  The true מקום of a person, their castle, must be in their prayers to G-d, in their connection with Hashem.  

The Gemorah Yoma (28b)  says אמר (רב) ואיתימא רב אשי קיים אברהם אבינו אפילו עירובי תבשילין.  Some have the girsa עירוב תחומין.  The Pnei Menachem explains that Shabbos has boundaries as well, it is also a "place" where a sinner can seek refuge.  Shabbos is a day when we can pause and focus on מקומו של עולם.  That is the nature of the boundaries of Shabbos.  It is a day to be יושב במקדש כל היום (see Rambam Kli Mikdash (5:7.))  To remove one's self from the reliance on their safe haven and confine in Hashem.

Tuesday, November 3, 2020

Teaching Seder

From the sefer לפרקים - writings from Rav Yechiel Yaakov Weinberg




















For anything to become part of a person's natural way of life, seder is required.

Saturday, October 31, 2020

Destination Unknown

 Destination Unknown

Parashas Lech Lecha

Harav Hagaon Yosef Elefant Shlita

This past week was the yahrtzeit of our unforgettable rosh yeshiva, Rav Nosson Tzvi Finkel z”tl, whose gadlus was multifaceted: in his bein adam lachaveiro, in his bein adam laMakom, in his hasmadah, in his learning, in his caring for everybody, in the scope of his vision for growth in Torah. I’m reminded of an incident with the rosh yeshiva I witnessed, related to this week’s parashah, that captures one aspect of his incredible personality.

I was once sitting in his dining room at some sort of meeting, when a little boy came in with his father for a brachah. The rosh yeshiva zt”l asked this little boy, “What are you learning?” and the boy said, “Lech lecha.”

“If someone would tell you to go somewhere,” the rosh yeshiva asked, “but not tell you where to go, would you start to move?”

The little boy didn’t know what to answer. So the rosh yeshiva pointed to himself, tapped on his chest, and looked at me and said, “That’s me — I’m going. I don’t know where the finish line is, I don’t know where I’m heading, but I’m forging ahead.”

The Sfas Emes points out that Hakadosh Baruch Hu told Avraham Avinu to go, without saying where to go, because there actually is no finish line. If anything, the opposite is true: When a person grows and takes a step forward, and gets to a certain place, the world unfolds in front of him. It’s as if he’s climbing a mountain and with every step that he takes he sees that there is so much more ahead of him, so many more opportunities for growth.

In Hakadosh Baruch Hu’s first revelation to Avraham Avinu, he told him simply to “go”: he didn’t tell him where to go, he didn’t tell him where the end is, because in ruchniyus there is no finish line or end goal. The goal is the growth itself. It’s not a means to an end — the means is the end itself. In Hakadosh Baruch Hu’s first dialogue with Avraham Avinu in the Torah, He was teaching him that a person’s relationship with Him is defined by movement, by growth. There doesn’t have to be a specific destination or finish line, because the growth is meant to be constant, and the road of that growth is eternal. The minute a person reaches one place, he sees that the “finish line” has moved.

The Yetzer Hara Attacks on the Path

On the passuk in Parashas Zachor: זָכוֹר אֵת אֲשֶׁר עָשָׂה לְךָ עֲמָלֵק בַּדֶּרֶךְ בְּצֵאתְכֶם מִמִּצְרָיִם, the Sfas Emes wonders why the Torah would specify the geographical location of where Klal Yisrael were when Amalek came: בַּדֶּרֶךְ. Why is that significant?

The Sfas Emes answers that the reason the Torah highlights the fact that Klal Yisrael were “on the way” is that the yetzer hara comes and ambushes a person precisely because he is בַּדֶּרֶךְ — when he hasn’t reached the finish line yet. Amalek, or the yetzer hara, challenges a person by saying, “What have you accomplished? How far have you gone? You’re only on the way, and that has no meaning.” In the world of gashmiyus, it’s the results that count, but in the world of ruchniyus it’s only the efforts, the growth, the forging further that count. So the meeting place of the yetzer hara with the human being is on the derech, when he’s forging ahead but hasn’t reached any tangible goal. The truth is that there is no end goal — all we are aiming for is to be on the derech, but the yetzer hara challenges that derech of growth by demanding, “Well, what do you have to show for yourself? You haven’t reached the finish line!” The answer to that is that there is no finish line, it’s just lech lecha: the journey is all about growth and getting closer to Hakadosh Baruch Hu.

A prime tactic of the yetzer hara, then, is to whispers in our ear, “What have you accomplished?”

Accordingly, Hakadosh Baruch Hu revealed himself to Avraham Avinu specifically with the message of lech lecha, of moving ahead without an end goal, and without a specific yardstick of accomplishment. Rather, it’s the progress itself, the actual growth, that has value.

We find that the name Eisav, who was the progenitor of Amalek, comes from the word עשוי. Eisav was born fully formed and complete, which symbolizes that he had no room left for growth, for effort, for the derech — there’s only a finished product. In the world of Eisav and Amalek, there’s only the finished product; only the results count.

The battleground of the yetzer hara is over the question of whether growth has intrinsic value, even if I haven’t gotten to where I want to get to. That’s alluded to in the phrase בַּדֶּרֶךְ בְּצֵאתְכֶם מִמִּצְרָיִם, and in the command of lech lecha to Avraham Avinu.

Constant Growth

The message and essence of Avraham Avinu was constant growth. At the beginning of Sefer Iyov (1:3), Rashi quotes the passuk in Sefer Yehoshua (14:15) where Avraham Avinu, who is buried in Chevron, is described as הָאָדָם הַגָּדוֹל בָּעֲנָקִים. Why, asks Rashi, does the passuk use two hei’s to describe him? He answers that the two hei’s represent the number ten, corresponding to the ten nisyonos Avraham withstood.

What Rashi is really teaching us is that the reason Avraham Avinu was called הָאָדָם הַגָּדוֹל בָּעֲנָקִים — the ultimate human being — is that he overcame his ten nisyonos. The Maharal teaches in many places that a human being is called adam because adamah, earth, represents potential for growth, as all life forms — vegetation, animal life, and human life — emanate from it. All that lies in the potential of the adam. The essence of humanity, then, is bringing out potential, through constant growth. A human being is called adam not because of the results per se, but rather because of his inherent potential for growth.

The purpose of the nisyonos of Avraham Avinu, the Ramban says in Parashas Vayera, is to uplift a person. The word nisayon comes from the word nes, meaning a banner, as in ושא נס לקבץ גליותינו. Just as a nes, in the sense of a miracle, is above nature, a nisayon lifts a person above his comfort zone.

A nisayon, says the Ramban, brings the person’s potential מהכח אל הפועל, allowing the person to move forward and step out of his comfort zone. During a nisayon, the person’s regular comfort zone is taken away, challenging him: Can you shteig? Can you go further? Or are you limited only to your comfort zone? A nisayon uplifts a person by allowing him to operate in a place where he normally doesn’t operate, so he’s taking a step forward in life.

A nisayon, then, is a step of growth, taking the person one step up the ladder. That’s all it is — the nisayon per se doesn’t have any intrinsic value.

Avraham Avinu is called הָאָדָם הַגָּדוֹל בָּעֲנָקִים, with two hei’s, because he became the ultimate adam through his nisyonos. That’s because the ultimate goal of a person is to grow and move further, not to stay in one place, in his comfort zone. Lech lecha means to move, and Avraham’s ten nisyonos took him from place to place, from one comfort zone to another. As the nisyonos got harder and harder, Hakadosh Baruch Hu kept raising the bar and saying okay, go a drop farther. Through that Avraham became the הָאָדָם הַגָּדוֹל בָּעֲנָקִים, making the ultimate use of his potential to grow. That’s what defines an adam, and that’s why Avraham Avinu was called הָאָדָם הַגָּדוֹל בָּעֲנָקִים, a person who was able to grow and thrive and maximize his potential. 

Rav Chaim Volozhiner notes that one Mishnah says (according to the girsa of his commentary, Ruach Chaim): עשרה דורות מנח עד אברהם, while the next Mishnah says: עשרה נסיונות נתנסה אברהם אבינו. He explains that only when Avraham withstood his nisyonos is he referred to as “Avinu.”

The definition of an av is something that has toldos, meaning the ability to take the next generation further, so that they should grow and thrive. The ability to be an av involves injecting and bringing out the potential and growth of Klal Yisrael. I always say that a person who can’t invest in himself and take himself out of mediocrity can’t do that for his kids. The primary job of parenting is to develop the potential of children, but a person who doesn’t develop his own potential can’t develop the potential of his children. So Avraham Avinu, in order to be an av — “Avinu” — had to overcome the ten nisyonos and become הָאָדָם הַגָּדוֹל בָּעֲנָקִים. Once he brought out his own potential, he was able to bring out the potential of Klal Yisrael.

So Avraham Avinu is all about growth, about bringing out one’s potential, about going further. Lech lecha —constantly moving from place to place and shteiging, without a destination in mind, without a goal, without a measuring rod. And that was Rav Nosson Tzvi: he was always moving, as he said, “That’s me.” We don’t know where we’re going, we don’t know where the end game is, but we’re forging ahead, constantly moving in the direction of Hakadosh Baruch Hu.

Friday, October 30, 2020

Milah And Eretz Yisroel

וכרות עמו הברית.  A brit is referred to as a כרת, a cutting apart.  It seems to be an oxymoron, a brit joins people together?  Chazal connect the milah with inheriting Eretz Yisroel, what's the connection? 

A brit means to join together two parties.  How do two different parties join together? By each party giving something to the other one.  When each one cuts off a piece of themselves and gives it to the other, then they are united.  That is what it means a כריתת ברית, by "cutting" away a piece of one's self and giving it to another party, it creates an inseparable bond .  (This idea it says in the Gra in his perush on Sefer Yetzirah and in the Alter Rebbe in this week's parsha, so coming from both the Litvoks and Chassidim.)

 Avrohom is promised Eretz Yisroel many times in this weeks parsha.  However, the Rogatchover says that all the promises are not alike.  The Rogatchover says that in the beginning of the parsha Avrohom was promised the land as a מתנה.  At the brit bein habisarim, Avrohom was promised the land as a ירושה.  That is why in the beginning of  the parsha it uses a language of אתן\ אתננה but in the brit bein habisarim it says לָ֧תֶת לְךָ֛ אֶת־הָאָ֥רֶץ הַזֹּ֖את לְרִשְׁתָּֽהּ. Now the land is given as a yerusha.  That is why it is only now that Avrohom asks בַּמָּ֥ה אֵדַ֖ע כִּ֥י אִֽירָשֶֽׁנָּה.  He understood that he may receive Eretz Yisroel as a מתנה but he didn't fathom how he could receive it as a ירושה.  

What is the difference between a present and a inheritance?  There is no such thing as a free lunch.  If one receives a present, that means one to some degree did something to deserve it.  An inheritance comes without any effort from the recipient, one receives without doing anything. Avrohom understood that Hashem would promise him Eretz Yisroel as "reward" for his actions but how could it be his as an inheritance?  That was his question.  With this we can understand why the 10 nations are mentioned in this context.  The 7 nations represent the 7 middot that a person can perfect.  The additional 3 are the 3 faculties of חב"ד that are not with a person's grasp.  They have to be given as a yerusha. 

A milah also involves both an aspect of giving from our perspective and a giving from Hashem.  The Rambam rules Laws of Milah (3:8) that one who is מושך ערלתו has nullified the covenant of Avrohom.   Yet at the same time he rules in the Laws of Terumot (7:6) that such a person may eat teruma, meaning he is not considered an ערל.  (See Rogatchover Parshas Bo Ch. 12 and other places pointed to in the Frankel edition.)  We see that a person can nullify there side of the brit, but their is the bris coming from Hashem that can't be nullified by an individual.  This reflects the two aspects of Avrohom's receiving of Eretz Yisroel.  There is the aspect that he "earned" it, his giving to Hashem and then there is also the yerusha aspect where it completely comes from Hashem.  (Largely based off of Likutay Sichos volume 35.)

Thursday, October 29, 2020

4 Against 5

The Ramban writes that the battle Avrohom fought with the 4 kings represents that we will survive the 4 stages of exile, עיי"ש.  In this derech remez mode I would like to add בדרך אפשר the following.  As discussed in the past the letter 4 represents division.  5 is the inside of the box, represents the inside of the box, it is the central dot that units all.  The battle of the 4 kings against the 5 kings is the battle of this world seeming separate from Hashem against the the yichud of Hashem that illuminates the world.  The battle represents that ultimately that yichud will become revealed and vanquish the separation that the world seems to be.  The 12 years represent the 12 גבולי אלכסון of the world and the 13 years of rebellion represent the אחד fighting to gain control over the 12 גבולי אלכסון.

Tuesday, October 27, 2020

Think! It Will Happen!

Hashem says about the plan of the migdal baval, וְעַתָּה֙ לֹֽא־יִבָּצֵ֣ר מֵהֶ֔ם כֹּ֛ל אֲשֶׁ֥ר יָזְמ֖וּ לַֽעֲשֽׂוֹת and therefore he mixed up the languages.  Why can't  Hashem just stop their plan? 

Rashi in Shoftim (19:19) says כאשר זמם – ולא כאשר עשה, the adim zommimim only get punished if their plan was not fulfilled but not if there testimony was carried out.  Everyone asks this is counterintuitive?  The Maharal explains that a thought a person has must come to fruition.  If their plan was not carried out, then it boomerangs back on their head and that is why they get punished.  It is their own plan that strikes back at them.  The Mictav explains that the source for this power of a person's thought is because man was created to be like G-d.  Just as G-d's "thoughts" have an effect, so too the plans of mankind.  Based upon this, says the Sifsay Chayim, that is the peshat in the possuk here.  Since the entire world had one plan, they were aligned in thought, the plan would have to bring forth the migdal and hence Hashem had to split the languages. 

The Zohar (76b) says חָמֵי מַה כְּתִיב הֶן עַם אֶחָד וְשָׂפָה אַחַת לְכֻלָּם. בְּגִין דְּאִנּוּן בְּלִבָּא חַד וּרְעוּתָא חַד וּמְמַלְּלֵי בִּלְשׁוֹן הַקֹּדֶשׁ. וְעַתָּה לא יִבָּצֵר מֵהֶם כָּל אֲשֶׁר יָזְמוּ לַעֲשׂוֹת. וְלֵית מַאן דְּיִמְנַע עוֹבָדָא דִלְהוֹן. אֲבָל מַאי אַעֲבִיד, אֲבַלְבֵּל לוֹן דַּרְגִּין דִלְעֵילָא, וְלִישַׁן דִּלְהוֹן לְתַתָּא. וּכְדֵין אִתְמְנַע עוֹבָדָא דִלְהוֹן. וּמַה בְּגִין דְּהֲווּ בִּרְעוּתָא וְלִבָּא חַד וּמְמַלְּלֵי בִּלְשׁוֹן הַקֹּדֶשׁ כְּתִיב לֹא יִבָּצֵר מֵהֶם כֹּל אֲשֶׁר יָזְמוּ לַעֲשׂוֹת, וְדִינָא דִלְעֵילָא לָא יָכִיל לְשַׁלְטָאָה בְּהוּ. אֲנַן אוֹ חַבְרַיָיא דְּמִתְעַסְּקִין בְּאוֹרַיְיתָא, וְאֲנַן בְּלִבָּא חַד וּרְעוּתָא חַד, עַל אַחַת כַּמָּה וְכַמָּה.  We, the people that remain with lashon hakodesh, if we are determined to gather to accomplish something for the good it will for sure happen (see Sfas Emes 5635.)  The Sifsay Chayim brings from the Punarvichar Rav in the name of the Chofetz Chayim that really our plans and dreams should take root, the reason why they do not is only because we don't really have a serious strong desire for things, there is always a maybe not, maybe something else etc.  However, if a person would strongly desire something it would take effect.  That is what it means אין דבר עומד בפני הרצון.  Your desire will make it happen.

Thursday, October 22, 2020

Lock Yourself In

What lead the generation of the mabul to stray?  Simply understood the generation of the mabul had no respect for each other, every one was stuck in their own way.  However, in the teachings of Rav Aharon Stroshelu, it is the opposite.  The dor hamabul was so much biyachud that they held what's your is also mine for we are all the same and therefore did not think there was anything wrong with חמס.  What they failed to recognize was the need for proper boundaries, to contain one's self.  that is why they were פרוץ in עריות which is a perversion of  a lack of boundaries.  

The Gemorah in Sanhedrin (108a) says ת"ר דור המבול לא נתגאו אלא בשביל טובה שהשפיע להם הקב"ה ... והיא גרמה שאמרו לאל (איוב כא, יד) סור ממנו ודעת דרכיך לא חפצנו מה שדי כי נעבדנו ומה נועיל כי נפגע בו אמרו כלום צריכין אנו לו אלא לטיפה של גשמים יש לנו נהרות ומעינות שאנו מסתפקין מהן.  The Stroshelu says they were bothered by the name שקי, the מי שאמר לעולמו די, the tzimtzum and boundaries of the world.  We can explain the next line of the Gemorah in this vein as well. Rain is a form of דין, as Chazal call it גבורת גשמים. They said we don't need the rain of גבורות, we can have water without boundaries.  

That is why Noach had to make a תבה.  He had to lock himself up in order to bring proper boundaries in the world.  What do you lock yourself into?  בא אתה וכל ביתך אל התבה.  The Baal Shem Tov (Keter Shem Tov additions #9) says דתיבה הם אותיות התורה והתפלה ובא אל התיבה הוא הכניסה בתוך האותיות של תורה ותפלה, לערנען מיט אַ חיות און דאַוונען מיט אַ חיות.  Our תבה is the תבות, the words of Torah and prayer.  That is how to make sure we maintain the proper order and balance in the world.  

Wednesday, October 21, 2020

All In The Letters

 According to the Kabbalists, everything in this world is made up of letters.  The letters of the name of an object are what makes it exist.  It is the constant input of Hashem giving life through these letters that the world exists.  In simple terms, each letter contains a spiritual energy.  What makes each and every object separate is that they are made up of a different order of spiritual energy.  Based upon this principle the Chassidic books explain how dinim can be changed to chesed.  If the gezerah exists, how can it be changed, did Hashem change his mind for what is better?  How can prayer work to cancel a heavenly decree?  In this week's parsha the Toldot Yaakov Yosef brings from the Baal Shem Tov that tefillah works to change the order of the letters from something that is negative to a positive. ומורי זלה"ה ביארו יותר כי הגז"ד הוא אותיות ויכול השליח לעשות צירוף אחר מן אותיות אלו ממש וכו' יעו"ש ובזה יובן היערוך שועך לא בצר אר"א לעולם יקדים אדם תפלה לצרה וכו' דבא לתרץ מה מהנית תפלה לצרה וכי יש שינוי רצון לפניו ית' וכקו' רמב"ן הנ"ל ובא ר"א לתרץ ק' הנ"ל כתירוץ הנ"ל דמהני תפלה דיכול להפך ע"י תפלה אותיות צרה שיהי צירוף אחר רצה להקדים אות ר' קודם אות צ' וז"ש לעולם יקדים אדם תפלה לצרה שע"י תפלה מקדים אותיות צר"ה שיהי' רצ"ה והבן.  The heavenly decree is that a certain spiritual combination must come into the world.  How it comes together, if it will be a positive or negative depends on man's behavior.

The Meor V'shemesh sees this hinted to in the possuk. צוהר תעשה לתיבה יש לפרש ע"פ רמז כך דהנה צדיקים יש להם להפך מדת הדין למדת הרחמים ע"י שמהפכים התיבות לצרופים אחרים ועושים מתיבת צרה ומהפכים לתיבת רצה כמבואר בכוונת בין המצרים לכוון בתיבת רצה שתהפוך צרה לרצה ובזה ממתיקים הגבורות לחסדים יש עוד צירף בתיבת צרה לתבת צהר דהיינו שיעשה חסדים מגולים שיאיר ה' פניו לישראל ובאור פני מלך חיים וזה הוא צהר תעשה לתיבה שיתהפכו תיבת צרה לצהר ומפרש הכתוב ע"י מה כי יש כח ביד הצדיקים להפוך מדת הדין לרחמים לעשות מצרה צהר ומפרש הכתוב ואל אמה תכלנה מלמעלה דהיינו ע"י תשובה נהפך מדת הדין לרחמים.  It says in the Tiferet Shlomo a similar idea צהר תעשה לתיבה. הנראה לרמז בזה כי אותיות התורה ניתנו לצרף כמו שאמרו יודע היה בצלאל לצרף האותיות כו'. והנה הצדיקים מצרפים האותיות מנגע לענג ומן צר"ה רצ"ה כמו שחותמין ביום התענית העונה לעמו ישראל בעת צרה ומיד נאמר רצה ה' כו' שנהפך הכל לרצון טוב. אבל בנח לא היה כך ונאמר לו צה"ר מן צרה שהיה מאיר לו רק לעצמו בפנים ולא על כל העולם. והבן:  However, note the Meor V'shemesh understands that the word צהר is a positive to bring open חסד in place of the din.  However, the Rodamsker takes it as a negative spin that Noach was only able to light himself up but not the world. It is not necessarily a contradiction.  Hashem told Noach צהר תעשה, he was teaching Noach the secret of changing the צרה into צהר.  The intent was for Noach to spare the world.  He could pray and spare the destruction of the world.  He was supposed to pray just like Avrohom prayed for Sedom.  However, he missed the boat and understood it in just the simple form, to make a window for the ark.  What could have been צהר for the world, turned into a צהר merely for himself. 

Thursday, October 15, 2020

One For All

 לְזֹאת֙ יִקָּרֵ֣א אִשָּׁ֔ה כִּ֥י מֵאִ֖ישׁ לֻֽקְחָה־זֹּֽאת.  Rashi says that the name אשה is לשון נופל על הלשון from איש.  Howevee, man is referred to as אדם, not as איש.  Why is man called אדם and not איש?  The Gemorah in Yevamot (61a) says אתם קרויין אדם ואין העובדי כוכבים קרויין אדם.  Why are gentiles not called אדם?  The word אדם is used both to refer to a single individual or to a group of people, it is both the singular and plural form.  The word איש when used in plural form becomes אנשים.  As explained before, the concept of a tzibbur, of many individuals making up one group is only applicable by Jews, not by gentiles.  That is why gentiles are not referred to as אדם because they lack this quality of being able to be a group, to be many אדם as one.  (See here different sources for this idea.)  The possuk says in Tazria (13:2) אדם כי יהיה, it uses the terminology of אדם, why?  The Sefer Apiryon (of author of Kitzur Shulchan Aruch) uses the above idea to explain.  The sin of loshon harah, one of the causes of tzaras is when one causes a separation between people. However, gentiles, whom lack the quality of a tzibbur are not stricken with loshon harah for they are never together as a tzibbur anyway.  That is why the possuk says אדם, because you are fit to be אדם, to be together as one group, and you violated that, oyu will be stricken with tzaras. That is why the possuk refers to man as אדם, because it is since he is a אדם, since he needs to be part of a group, that he needs a partner. (Otzar HaTorah.)  Built into the very creation of mankind is the need to be part of a group.  

Wednesday, October 14, 2020

Removing The Façade

 Rashi asks why does it say וַֽיְהִי־עֶ֥רֶב וַֽיְהִי־בֹ֖קֶר י֥וֹם אֶחָֽד and not יום ראשון which would fit according to the order that it is the first day?  Rashi answers על שם שהיה הקב״ה אחד בעולמו, שלא נבראו המלאכים עד יום שיני.  Asks the Lubavitcher Rebbe (Likutay Sichos volume 25) how can you say there was only Hashem if the light was only created?  Answers the Rebbe, that the light created on the first day was as Rashi says, the light hidden away for the tzaddikim.  As explained as few weeks ago from Rav Wolbe, the world conceals Hashem's presence.  The clarity of the light of creation was the ability to see through the façade of the World and see the Godliness inherit in it.  However, that light was hidden away to make space for man to make a choice between good and evil.  This light was not a contradiction to the fact that שהיה הקב״ה אחד בעולמו, it complimented it. 

On a certain level that may be the intent of the Gemorah (Shavuot 9a) that Hashem says הביאו עלי כפרה על שמעטתי את הירח.  The Gemorah doesn't mean that originally the moon had its own light like the sun, rather it constantly was able to reflect the light of the sun from all sides, not like the current state of waking and waning.  This represents that sometimes we can't see Hashem, we do not see the light.  For that we need to bring a korban, to come close to Hashem to help remove this separation (Or Gedalyahu Nissan.) 

The Beis Avrohom (Slonim) brings from the Warka that during the week we say good day in the day and good night at night but on Shabbos we say guut Shabbos even at night because there is no aspect of night to Shabbos, it is all considered day. He says that is why it says the word יום three times about Shabbos, ויכל אלקים ביום השביעי, וישבת ביום השביעי, ויברך אלקים את יום השביעי to tell us that the night, morning and afternoon of Shabbos are all considered day.  What does it mean that Shabbos is considered day? 

Last year we explained that the light used in creation was hidden in the Torah.  One who learns Torah in a proper manner can have a clarity of the Godliness of the world.  The Sfas Emes Shelach (5649) says that mitzvot come to fix the body and Torah comes to fix the neshama.  That is why Shabbos, the day of the neshama, the focus is on Torah.  אכן בחי' התורה הוא כולו אור לנשמת אלוקי ממעל והוא בחי' השבת יומא דנשמתין ולאו דגופא. לכן שבת יעשה כולו תורה.  That is what it means that Shabbos does not have night.  The light of clarity shines on Shabbos.  

The Degel Machene Efraim:



Chilul Hashem And Lebron James

 Due to the amount of people that took it upon themselves to misdefine  the concept of chillul Hashem, I will share what the Mictav volume 3 pg. 117-118 says.















According to the mistaken view of those decrying chillul Hashem, I showed the following picture to a friend and he declared it must be a chillul shem Lebron,















Where's the outcry, the lack of masks (according to those that believe it is right to take away the rights of other's to breathe,) the crowd with no distancing?!  Veistos, that is not the issue, rather it is something else....

Friday, October 9, 2020

Future Commitment

We say in the hadran, הדרן עלך וכו והדרך עלן etc. Which means we will return to you, and you return to us. The first half is understandable, we are saying that we will come back to the Tractate but what does it mean הדרך עלן, that the Torah should return to us? The Tractate can't jump off the shelf into your hand?
I heard an explanation from Rav Yisraeli shlita (I subsequently found the same idea in some seforim.) The Gemorah in Sanhedrin (99b) says שנאמר (משלי טז, כו) נפש עמל עמלה לו כי אכף עליו פיהו הוא עמל במקום זה ותורתו עומלת לו במקום אחר. Rashi says (girsah of Eyen Yaakov,) שמחזרת עליו ומבקשת מאת קונה למסור לו טעמי תורה וסתריה. We see that the Torah itself prays to Hashem for a person to be successful in their learning. How can the Torah beseech Hashem for a person? Because the Torah is Torah Chayim. As I like to tell my sister when she says quiet, only dead things are quiet. Learning Torah is not studying some ancient, dead history. Torah is a living screaming organism. By assuring הדרן עלך, that you have not left the Tractate behind, it will be הדרך עלן, it will help you understand the next Tractate as well.  
The Haghos Ashri end of Sukkah brings the midrash (Shir Hashirim 1:9 ) that says after Shlomo asked Hashe for a לב שומע, wisdom and understanding, מיד ויבא ירושלים ויעמוד לפני ארון ברית ה' ויעל עולות ויעש שלמים ויעש משתה לכל עבדיו, א"ר אלעזר מכאן שעושין סעוד' לגמרה של תורה.  How is this a source for making a siyum, Shlomo did not learn anything yet, he was just given greater ability?  We see the celebration is for the Torah that was learnt, rather it is for the Torah that will be learnt.  In other words, after one finishes a Tractate, their connection to Torah is strengthened.  The Torah will come to the individual's aid to be able to have a greater understanding in Torah.  That is the הדרן עלן, celebrating the greater insights in Torah that are possible because one has finished a Tractate. 
Many come into Simchas Torah wondering what is the simcha for me, I didn't learn enough this year, I'm not learning in yeshiva/kollel, what does it have to do with me?  The answer is that we are not celebrating last year's learning, it is a time of commitment for the future.  In some institutions people make learning pledges for the upcoming year.  That is taking upon themselves the commitment for the future (Kotzker.)
On Sukkot there are the great celebrations of the בית השואבה.  Why is the simcha called the simcha of the בית השואבה, when the mitzvah is not the drawing of the water, rather the libation?  And what is so great about the water libation that it deserves such simcha?  Rashi Vayikra (2:13) tells us since the water that was placed on earth complained that they were being sent further away from Hashem they meir to be offered in the water libation on Sukkot.  The water libation indicates our desire to do more, to come closer to Hashem.  That is what we are celebrating.  That is why the celebration is for the בית השואבה, for we are not celebrating the completing of the mitvah, rather the opportunity to reconnect ourselves to Hashem.  That starts with the preparation of the mitzvah.  It is the new opportunity of having shed our baggage of the previous year on the High Holy days and now we are starting a better relationship with Hashem (see the Hornosteipel.)  

Tuesday, October 6, 2020

Day Of Laughter

In Maaseh Rav #133 it says the Gaon was happy on Sukkot and even happier on Shemini Atzeret which is the greatest day of happiness according to the kabbalah.  What is the great happiness of Shemini Atzeret?  In Even Shelameh Ch. 11 #10 it brings from the Gaon that the holidays in Tishrei correspond to the process of the future days, starting with the great day of judgment.  The day of Shemini Atzeret corresponds to the time when the כופרים of Hashem will be finished off and Klal Yisroel alone will left to rejoice with Hashem and we will eat the three feasts of Shabbos, לויתן, בהמות הררי אלף ויין משומר.  The Gaon says in Mishley (31:25) on the possuk עֹז־וְהָדָ֥ר לְבוּשָׁ֑הּ וַ֝תִּשְׂחַ֗ק לְי֣וֹם אַחֲרֽוֹן says that עוז in on Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur, הדר is on Sukkot and וַ֝תִּשְׂחַ֗ק לְי֣וֹם אַחֲרֽוֹן is a reference to Shemini Atzeret.  Again, we see that he defines Atzeret as the principal day of simcha. 

The very next piece in Even Shelameh says the סעודת לויתן is the דעת that will be increased and that is the greatest joy.  

As explained on this blog before, laughing or שחק comes about when a completely unexpected event happens.  As explained in the last post, the holiday of Atzeret is to bring Godliness into the earth.  It is to be able to bring kedusha in that which seems the opposite of it that creates the ultimate שחוק.

Earth Holiday

 In the Gra al HaTorah Pinchas it brings:






What does this mean? 

The Targum Yonason on the possuk of  בַּיּוֹם֙ הַשְּׁמִינִ֔י עֲצֶ֖רֶת תִּהְיֶ֣ה לָכֶ֑ם (Pinchas 29:35) explains that you shall gather yourself in your house and leave the sukkah, ביומא תמינאה כנישין תהוון בחדוא מן מט(יל){לי}כון לבתיכון.  Why does he emphasize the leaving of the sukkah, it is a mitzvah and we generally leave mitzvot with sadness?  Rashi in Sukkah (48a) also says that Atzeret is a רגל in its own right means that you don't have to sit in the sukkah, again emphasizing leaving the sukkah, why?  As we wrote last week, the yesod of the mitzvah of sukkah is to leave aside the plesures and pursuits of this mortal world and pursue ruchniut.  However, Atzeret is a higher level than that. While it is of course necessary to reject the הבל הבלים present in this world, to completely reject the physical world is not the ultimate goal either.  The greatest kedusha if found hidden specifically in the physical world.  After we have inbued the lesson of Sukkot and have learned to reject the הבל הבלים, we are now ready to find the kedusha that is present in the earth.  That is why the Targum and Rashi emphasize that we leave the sukkah, because ultimatly we must learn to come into our house, enter the physical world and find the kedusha inherint in it.  That is the power of Atzeret and that is maybe what the Gra means it is נגד הארץ, present in the earth, the mostr base matirial, we have to find and bring kedusha. With this we can understand why the possuk says עֲצֶ֖רֶת תִּהְיֶ֣ה לָכֶ֑ם, why does it not say 'עצרת לה, as it says in Reah about the last day of Pesach?  Because we find the kedusha in the לכם, in the actions of your own mundane world. 

Thursday, October 1, 2020

Sukkot Story

This is a Reb Shlomo story (with a few minor changes) that I found someone else wrote the whole thing online and I did the old copy and paste.  So, if you want a hassidic tale and have never heard it before, here it is. 

 It has been told that Reb Zusha was a very humble man. So much so that he never referred to himself in the first person so as not to say the words “I” or “Me”.

Zusha and his brother Rebb Elimelech were merchants for a living, and not very successful ones at that. They were both so poor that while one taught at the Beit Midrash, the other had to travel from one town to the next just to make ends meet.

It was on the eve of Sukkot one year that Reb Zusha found himself in a small town in the north-eastern regions of Russia. With no money for a place to stay, Rebb Zusha made his way to the local shul, hoping to find some kind Jews. When he walked in to shul, a murmur passed through out the synagogue, “could it be? Is that Rebb Zusha?? It is, isn’t it?”

His great name in Torah and good deeds had gone before him and it wasn’t long before the Rabbi of the shul invited him to sit by his side and asked that he stay by him for the holiday. Rebb Zusha was thankful for his lot.

They sat in the Sukkah for hours after dinner, singing, learning Torah and telling stories. Finally it was time for bed and the Rabbi ordered his servants to prepare the Sukkah for sleep, since it is a great Mitzvah to sleep in the Sukkah. When they asked Rebb Zusha how many blankets he would need, he answered “none”, he had all that he could ever want. At this the Rabbi looked up perplexed.. “Rebb Zusha, we are pretty far north. It gets very cold at night, please take some blankets. But Zusha refused “You have already given Zusha more than he could dream of, Zusha will be fine” Zusha said adamantly.

“But…” stuttered the Rabbi, he did not continue, he realized that Zusha was not going to budge. “Put the blankets on the edge of his bed” he said to the servant, “I am sure that when it gets cold enough he will give in and take a blanket.” The servant did as the Rabbi requested and left the Sukkah.

As they lay in their beds, The Rabbi under dozens of blankets and Rebb Zusha still in the clothes of his travels, The Rabbi thought he heard a whisper. Listening carefully he became aware that it was coming from Rebb Zusha. First it sounded like a prayer, but as his ears grew accustomed to the sounds of the night, he understood that a conversation was taking place.

“God..? This is your humble servant Zusha. You have done great things for your servant today as you do everyday in his life, much that he does not deserve. Tonight you gave him a warm community, a meal, a bed to sleep in… he should not ask you for any more.. but.. but.. it’s a little cold in this Sukkah. Would it be a terrible inconvenience for you blessed father to make it a little warmer?”

When the Rabbi, pretending to sleep in the bed near by heard this he couldn’t help but smile to himself. “Soon he will reach for the Blankets”, He thought.

He hardly had time to amuse himself with this thought when he realized that it seemed a little warmer in the Sukkah. He removed a few blankets in disbelief.

Moments later the Rabbi heard the whispers again. “God..? This is your humble servant Zusha again, Zusha knows you are very busy and thanks you. Zusha knows that he does not deserve any of this… but… Could you… would you make it a little warmer? It still quite cold here.”

The Sukkah now got considerably warmer and the Rabbi removed all of his blankets and lay sweating in his bed, amazed by the miracle he had just witnessed.

A few moments went by, and Zusha was at it again… “God..?, it’s Zusha.. Could you..”

“STOP!” The Rabbi yelled, interrupting Zusha. “Stop, Stop right now. If you make it any warmer in here, the Sukkah will burn down…!” So Zusha stopped, and no more miracles happened that night.

In the Sukkah at the time was also a student of Zusha’s, who had accompanied him on his travels. Once they were back home, the student ran to the Beit Midrash to recount to Rebb Elimelech and the students of this wonderful miracle.

“Can you believe it?” He asked Elimelech? A miracle, a real miracle happened to your own brother.” Elimelech did not respond, he simply looked away and began to cry. The other students around Rebb Elimelech who had heard the story stood in disbelief and did not know what to do.

“Rebbi, why are you crying??

It’s a festive moment, your brother just experienced a wonderful miracle.”

“I am not crying for the miracle that happened” Reb Elimelech finally responded, “but rather for all that could have happened, but did not”

Rebb Elimelech turned to walk away and as he did, his students could almost hear him mumble.

“If only that Rabbi had not stopped Zusha, my brother could have warmed up this entire world…”עכ"ל.

The lesson Rav Zusha was teaching was that one can isolate themselves from the cold and bitterness in the world by hiding under covers, but that is not out mission.  It is our job to warm up the world with light.  Sometimes though, we add light, but after doing a little, we feel content and stop.  But that is not enough, we must not stop until the world is illuminated.